The Fear of Judgement- How it holds us back (Generation Era) -Dee

 The Fear of Judgement- How it holds us back (Generation Era)

                                                                                  -Dee

We all live in a deeply judgmental society, but have we ever paused to ask, who is the society? We are the society. Each one of us contributes to it, whether knowingly or unknowingly. Our actions, beliefs, and attitudes become part of the world we pass on to the next generation. But instead of building a space that nurtures growth, many of us face constant judgment, and this fear holds us back from becoming who we truly are. It's time to shift the mindset. Let’s create a more compassionate, understanding environment for the Generation Era — one where growth is supported, not suppressed.

fear of judgement what is Fear of Judgement?

Fear often begins the moment we start caring too much about the outer world’s opinion. It becomes that inner voice — the one that whispers, “Don’t do it,” every time we try to step outside the norm. Most of the time, the fear of judgment arises when we choose to do something different from others.

What will people think? How will society respond? What if they reject me for not fitting in?

These thoughts slowly pull us away from our path. Over time, that fear takes root in our hearts and convinces us that being different is weird, when in reality, it’s where true strength lies.

Why do we care so much about other people's opinions?

It all starts from a young age — when we constantly seek reassurance. Assurance gives us self-esteem, a sense of being right, a feeling that we’re on the “correct” path. So naturally, when we’re about to do something outside of our comfort zone, our thoughts become confused, and we turn to others for opinions. Their approval feeds our self-esteem, and slowly, it becomes a basic emotional need.

Everything feels difficult until we learn how to navigate it. In the same way, making a decision that goes against societal norms can feel scary. We start wondering, “What if this goes wrong?” or “Will people accept this?” That’s when the fear of judgement creeps in. And why wouldn’t it? At the end of the day, we are part of a society — one we interact with, face, and live within, every single day.

💡 How to Overcome the Fear of Judgement

1. Acknowledge the Fear

The first step to overcoming fear is acknowledging it. You are the only one who truly understands your emotions. Addressing the fear before it takes control helps you regain power over it. Don’t ignore the feeling — accept it, understand it, and then take action.

2. Focus on Work That Brings You Joy

When fear starts clouding your thoughts, focus on something that brings you peace and joy. Engage in an activity you love, whether it’s a hobby, a creative outlet, or work that excites you. Constantly thinking about negative possibilities will only amplify your fear. Shifting your focus to something positive helps you redirect your mind and release anxiety.

“Being in fear is an emotion, but not an option.”

3. Overlook Your Thoughts

When fear creeps in, ask yourself: Are the people I’m worried about even worth this energy? Will they be in your life forever? And most importantly, what happens if you don’t overcome your fear? Sometimes, re-evaluating your thoughts brings clarity and relief. Reframing your perspective on society’s judgments can make a huge difference. Often, people’s judgments are fleeting and don’t define who you are.

4. Surround Yourself with Supportive People

Supportive people bring peace and growth into your life. Those who encourage and uplift you help ease the burden of fear. Surround yourself with individuals who understand you and inspire you to become your best self. Positive surroundings contribute significantly to overcoming fear and judgment.

5. Take Small Steps Toward Change

While having supportive friends and family is crucial, the biggest change happens when it starts with you.

Change is the only constant in life, and a small action today can lead to big results tomorrow. Don’t wait for others to change your world — take small steps that will gradually build your confidence and help you overcome fear.

6. Practice Self-Awareness and Self-Love

Get to know yourself better. Understand your emotions, your triggers, and how you react to situations. You are your best teacher, and knowing your weaknesses and strengths allows you to take control. Self-love is key to overcoming the obstacles life throws at you. When you trust yourself and your path, judgments won’t weigh you down. Don’t fear making mistakes — they’re part of growth. Worrying about temporary situations only drains your time and energy. Be kind to yourself.

                 "The only judgment that truly matters is the one you pass on yourself."